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Words Kill! Bullying – The Toll it Can Take on Kids

Words kill – literally!

Bullying and cyberbullying is rapidly spreading and harming our kids today.

Some being driven to suicide – why? Because words do kill!

The stats are disturbing:

·  42% of kids have been bullied while online.

·  35% of kids have been threatened online.

·  21% of kids have received mean or threatening e-mail or other messages.

·  58% of kids admit someone has said mean or hurtful things to them online.

·  53% of kids admit having said something mean or hurtful to another person online.

·  58% have not told their parents or an adult about something mean or hurtful that happened to them online.

  • 51% of teen girls say pressure from a guy is a reason girls send sexy messages or images
  • 44% of both teen girls and teen boys say it is common for sexually suggestive text messages to get shared with people other than the intended recipient.
  • Middle school cyberbullying victims are more apt to commit suicide
  • Suicide rates among 10-14 yr. olds have risen over 50% the last 3 decades

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Sue Scheff: Bullying Busters or Bystanders

As the news continues about the rising rates of bullying, parents need to take a stand.  Determine if your child is being bullied or possibly a bully.  Has your child witnessed another child being teased?  Is he/she a bully bystander or will they be the one that busts them (tells the teacher or person in authority)?

The U.S. Department of Education cites the following ways in which bystanders and peers of victims can be negatively affected by acts of bullying:

  • They may become afraid to associate with the victim for fear of lowering their own status or of retribution from the bully and becoming victims themselves.
  • They may fear reporting bullying incidents because they do not want to be called a “snitch,” a “tattler” or an “informer.”
  • Some experience feelings of guilt or helplessness for not standing up to the bully on behalf of their classmate.
  • Many may be drawn into bullying behavior by group pressure.
  • They may feel unsafe, unable to take action or a loss of control.

Bullying has become a vicious trend that although is not new, it is escalating as it spreads into cyberbullying.  We are hearing about more children suffering with depression and committing suicide that may have links to them being bullied or teased in school or outside of school.

To find out more parent tips visit Connect with Kids Bullying Bystanders.

Be an educated parent, learn all you can about bullying.  Talk to your children and encourage them to do the right thing.

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Sue Scheff: Learn to Think Before You Speak

How many times have you said something you wish you could take back?  How many times have your children repeated things you wish you never said?  As many parents know, what goes in their little ears can come out of their mouth – when you least expect it or want to hear it!

How about when your teens repeat personal matters in your family?  If you are sharing private information with your teenagers, you may want to be clear it is personal and especially not to share it online or in text. 

What about when kids don’t understand certain slang words and use them unknowingly in conversations that end up hurting others? 

A very sensitive and difficult subject is sexuality.  Today we are better educated and in tune with different ways of life for people and their own sexuality.  What happens when a teen believes they are gay or a lesbian?  Life can become extremely difficult for them.

Parents play a crucial role in teaching their children about the negative impact of bullying and harassment. Talk about these issues with your children and within your community.  Learn about the Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN).  No matter what your religious beliefs are, no one should condone bullying.  We should not judge others, as we don’t want them to judge us. 

GLSEN Mission: The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.

Some parents may not be comfortable with this subject, however it is a topic that needs to be addressed.  Ignoring it can lead to devastating results.  Whether it is a child hurting or taking their own life (watch video of grieving mother, Sirdeaner Walker), you need to be an educated parent.  Teach respect for all people, all races and all walks of life. 

Studies indicate that students who regularly experience verbal and non-verbal forms of harassment suffer from emotional turmoil, low self-esteem, loneliness, depression, poor academic achievement and high rates of absenteeism. Research also shows that many of the bystanders to acts of harassment experience feelings of helplessness and powerlessness, and develop poor coping and problem-solving skills. Clearly, homophobic and all types of harassment-and the toxic effects they produce-are whole school problems that all educators must confront. – ThinkB4YouSpeak.com

Be an educated parent, you will have safer teens. Teach your kids to “think” before they speak.  As adults, we also need to think before we speak at times too.  We need to be an example to our children. 

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