In today’s dynamic classrooms, the teaching and learning process is becoming more nuanced, more seamless, and it flows back and forth from students to teachers.
In today’s dynamic classrooms, the teaching and learning process is becoming more nuanced, more seamless, and it flows back and forth from students to teachers.
“Peer pressure is not always bad. It can be very good. It can be encouraging. Sometimes a person may not want to choose hi-risk behaviors and may not want to do the wrong thing because they know their friends aren’t into that.”
– Dr. Marilyn Billingsly, pediatrician
It’s conventional wisdom that peer pressure is a powerful force in the lives of kids, especially teenagers. A new University study reminds us that while peer pressure can push kids into risky behavior, it can also help kids do the right thing.
Alex Shillinger is in court facing drug charges. He says he was “worn down” by peer pressure to try marijuana.
“There were constantly people telling me, ‘Come on, just try it, just one time, it’ll be fine,’” says Alex, 18.
On the other hand, because of peer pressure, Ambra says she’s never done drugs or alcohol or had sex.
“Being around people like that, just like myself, it keeps me motivated,” says Ambra, 17.
Peers can be powerful influences, for both goodandbad behavior. A new study from the University of Southern California found that kids were less likely to use drugs if they were in a substance abuse program taught by other kids.
“Peer pressure is not always bad. It can be very good. It can be encouraging. Sometimes a person may not want to choose hi-risk behaviors and may not want to do the wrong thing because they know their friends aren’t into that,” says Dr. Marilyn Billingsly, pediatrician.
Of course, it depends on the friends — and parents have little control over that.
“I think it makes it even more important for parents to know their kids’ friends and the parents of their kids friends and monitor what’s going on with the group of friends,” Dr. Carol Drummond, Ph.D., psychologist.
If you suspect that one of your child’s friends isusing drugs, experts say to make your views on drugs loud and clear and tell your child you’re worried.
“Sometimes your kid will come back and say, ‘Listen, Mom, I know he’s drinking, doing drugs; I am not doing that.’ But at least you’ve gotten a chance to plant that message that you’ve got worries. You’ve got to watch your own child. And if you feel like you have some concern that your child is making bad decisions, then you need to act aggressively,” says Dr. Judy Wolman, Ph.D., psychologist.
It’s never too soon to start thinking about back to school shopping. In fact, you can often save by shopping completely out of season. Oftentimes, shopping doesn’t even involve leaving your home, as online discounts are plentiful and recycling what you already have is an option, too. If you do plan to hit brick and mortar stores, there are coupons, sales and thrift stores to consider when making your back to school purchases. To help you get a head-start, here are 25 blogs for the frugal back to school shopper.
Budgeting for Back to School
Before you spend a dime, you need to know what you can afford to spend while remaining comfortably within your budget. Creating a back to school shopping budget is a great way to ensure you make the right purchases. Remember, too, that each child’s needs are different, depending on what stage of school they’ve reached. Start off by reading these five blogs, so that you don’t waste money on a spending frenzy.
Saving on Clothes
It goes without saying that your child will need a whole new wardrobe for the coming school year – or so they would have you believe. However, new doesn’t always mean off the rack, sometimes new means never before worn. Then there’s the problem of wear and tear. School age children, as is their nature, go through clothes like they’re going out of fashion. To make sure you get the best savings on back to school clothes, check out these five blogs.
Recycling, Thrift and Green Ideas
When it comes to saving on back to school clothes, supplies and books, recycling items and shopping at thrift stores offer excellent money saving options. For families who like to stay eco-friendly in everything that they do, there are plenty of back to school shopping options, too. There are treasure troves full of back to school bargains out there – you just need to take the time and effort to find them. In these five blogs you will find ideas for frugal shopping, as well as eco-friendly back to school products that won’t cost you a fortune.
School and College Text Books and Savings
While most schools will supply all the books that your child needs, there are some text books that support learning that you will have to buy yourself. However, when it comes to college age children who have to purchase all their own books, it’s time to really start hunting for those savings. The good news is, wherever there is a platform for students to sell their own text books, there’s a buyer’s market, too. Other alternatives include book-swaps, free online texts, yard sales and fairs. For both school age children and college students, there are some great resources for books available in these five blogs.
School Equipment and Supplies
As your child gets older, each year they will need more and more school equipment and supplies. Unfortunately, the cost of those supplies also greatly increases as each year passes. If you have more than one child, each with their own extra-curricular interests, you could end up out of pocket very quickly. You will find that plenty of the major outlets stock everything you need for your child going back to school, however, you probably won’t find the bargains you are hoping for. This is, perhaps, the area of back to school shopping where it is most important to make frugal purchases, so tread carefully. The advice in these five blogs will help you decide what your child needs and where to get supplies at the lowest prices.
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Have you ever wanted to bottle up a child’s energy?
Does your teen need to do more than text or use social media?
Yes, they will stop moving when there is a screen in front of their faces. It could be a TV screen or a computer screen but if they can see it they immediately assume a seated position and time will be lost. So even the most active children can have moments of lazy times in front of the TV or playing a video game. This becomes a problem if you would not recognize your child standing up or without that glazed look he gets while staring at the TV.
Sedentary activities can be allowed if they are monitored and do not become a lifestyle. In today’s world of video games, iPods, Tablets, and texting we see more kids preferring to exercise their fingers over their bodies. As parents we need to encourage a healthy way to stay active and burn off excess fat and calories before it becomes a problem.
Since children naturally have a ton of energy and love to play then engaging them in physical activity should not be too difficult. It is recommended that a child get 60 minutes of moderately intense exercise a day.
The one hour can be split up in half or quarters but the main goal is to make them sweat for more than not cleaning their rooms for at least 60 minutes daily. This alone can have a tremendous effect on keep their weight now and keeping them healthy.
Ways to keep your child active:
There are plenty of ways to keep moving. It seems so many try to calm their child down or have them satisfied by video games and TV. This will not give children the physical activity or mental stimulation they need to live a healthy life. A lot of that pent up frustration and fidgety behavior is an active kid just waiting to throw a football or go on a nature walk.
Make this a family activity and everybody wins. Families who are active have active children. With a rise in childhood obesity it is essential that we find activities the children enjoy. One of the best ways to encourage an activity is by making it a family sport or activity.
Everyone in the family will benefit from working out together.
During your children’s teenage years you’ll likely encounter a period of time when it seems like you have nothing in common with each other and carrying on conversations is akin to climbing Mt. Everest. This is heavily influenced by the fact that teenagers and the adults who care for them are very different creatures and are at very different points in their lives. Understanding those differences will help open the lines of communication between you and the teen in your life.
Check out these ideas for ways to get teens talking:
Teens are mysterious creatures. They seem to move from child to young adult almost overnight. Parents of teens frequently find themselves irritated by the things they say and the way they act. You may be trying to make sense of the chaos of adolescence, but it can be a mistake to judge them too quickly.
Here are a few myths about teenagers and how to be sure you dispel them.
My teen doesn’t care about my feelings. The words your teen uses might lead you to feel unloved by him, however, the truth is that he does care about you a great deal. Children from around age 11 and up are going through many changes. Some are physical in nature, but there are also many emotional shifts. Your child is growing up, learning a lot and realizing that at some point he is going to have to live a life apart from you. He is attempting to assert his independence from you and is at times unsure of how to do this appropriately. He will attempt many things, including talking back and disregarding your feelings. Your teen actually cares a great deal about your feelings and is looking for reassurance that it is ok for him to separate from you in some ways. While it may not be acceptable for him to talk to you in a disrespectful way, it’s important to talk to and treat your teen like an adult as much as you can. How do you respond to other adults when they say hurtful things to you?
My teenager is lazy. While some teens have better work ethic than others, the adjective “lazy” is not an accurate description of most teens. When motivated, a teen can do amazing things; even a teen who plays video games for too many hours a day can be inspired to do amazing things. The key term here is motivation. Finding what motivates your teen is important, and may be the only way to get him to get off the couch and help around the house. The best way to motivate a teen is to give him ownership of the project. If you expect him to help keep the house clean, then he needs to feel that he has a vested interest in the home. Letting him have input on where furniture goes, what carpet is picked out or what color the walls are can go further in investing your child in the home than you think. There is nothing wrong with offering incentives for your child to complete tasks, whether monetary or relationship based. However, nagging and hounding your teen will NOT create motivation.
My teen never listens to my advice. Teenagers are going though many changes and are trying to find their identity outside of their parents view. Your teen is most likely listening to you, but greatly wants to gain an independent life. He is afraid that following your advice will lead him to being dependent on you for a long time. Parents of teens have to walk a very thin line between giving advice and telling the child what to do. If your teen is still coming to you for advice, count yourself lucky, because that often stops at some point in the adolescent years too. When your child tells you a story or shares an issue he is facing, do not jump in and tell him how to fix the problem. Step back and just listen, ask questions to clarify and then validate the feelings he might be having about the situation. Once he has finished the story, you can ask him if he wants your advice. He may say no, in which case you thank him for telling you and let him know you are there if he wants to talk about it further. If he says he wants your advice, give it with caution, understanding the best way for him to learn is if he helps to come up with the solution. Because of this, aiding your child through questions can be the most helpful. Once the advice is given, it is his hands. He needs to be given the freedom to choose what he will do with your suggestions.
My teen does not want to spend time with me anymore. While it is very true that as your child gets older he will spend less and less time with you, it is far from the truth that your teen does not want to spend time with you. Most teens have more activities outside of the home as they get older and their interests change drastically, sometimes from one day to the next. The way they talk might even change. All these adjustments mean that you will understand him less and less each day. It is not that he wants to spend less time with you; it is that he perceives there are fewer things he has in common with you. Making an effort to understand the culture and how it changes from day to day can greatly improve the time you spend together because you will have more in common with him. The truth is that he still craves the time he gets to spend with his mom or dad, but realizes often unconsciously that he needs to pull away from you too.
It is too late to build good communication habits in my teen. It is never too late to teach and model healthy communication habits. You may feel that the habits both you and your child have are already ingrained in your mind and will never change, but that simply is not true. It takes small but measurable changes in your behavior to effectively help your teen communicate better. Your teen is likely looking for someone to work to understand him, even if that person never fully can.
Raising a teenager can be a maddening adventure, but it can also be touching. To see the child that was once so little and helpless becoming an adult can be overwhelming. Sometimes parents want to hold onto the little child they once knew. Unfortunately, attempting to hold on by treating the young adult like you did when he was little can cause a great deal of friction between you both. It is a difficult process to communicate with a teenager, but when done with respect and understanding it can be a less frustrating phase.
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You probably see and hear a lot about alcohol—from TV, movies, music, and your friends. But what are the real facts about underage alcohol use?
Myth Alcohol isn’t as harmful as other drugs.
FACT Alcohol increases your risk for many deadly diseases, such as cancer. Drinking too much alcohol too quickly can lead to alcohol poisoning, which can kill you.
Myth Drinking is a good way to loosen up at parties.
FACT Drinking is a dumb way to loosen up. It can make you act silly, say things you shouldn’t say, and do things you wouldn’t normally do (like get into fights).
Myth Drinking alcohol will make me cool.
FACT There’s nothing cool about stumbling around, passing out, or puking on yourself. Drinking alcohol also can cause bad breath and weight gain.
Myth All of the other kids drink alcohol. I need to drink to fit in.
FACT If you really want to fit in, stay sober. Most young people don’t drink alcohol. Research shows that more than 70 percent of youth age 12 to 20 haven’t had a drink in the past month.1
Myth I can sober up quickly by taking a cold shower or drinking coffee.
FACT On average, it takes 2 to 3 hours for a single drink to leave the body. Nothing can speed up the process, not even drinking coffee, taking a cold shower, or “walking it off.”
Myth Adults drink, so kids should be able to drink too.
FACT A young person’s brain and body are still growing. Drinking alcohol can cause learning problems or lead to adult alcoholism. People who begin drinking by age 15 are five times more likely to abuse or become dependent on alcohol than those who begin drinking after age 20.2
Myth Beer and wine are safer than liquor.
FACT Alcohol is alcohol. It can cause you problems no matter how you consume it. One 12-ounce bottle of beer or a 5-ounce glass of wine (about a half cup) has as much alcohol as a 1.5-ounce shot of liquor. Alcopops—sweet drinks laced with malt liquor—often contain more alcohol than beer!
Myth I can drink alcohol and not have any problems.
FACT If you’re under 21, drinking alcohol is a big problem: It’s illegal. If caught, you may have to pay a fine, perform community service, or take alcohol awareness classes. Kids who drink also are more likely to get poor grades in school and are at higher risk for being a crime victim.