As summer is here, school is out and teens are looking forward to their time off. Whether they are traveling with their family or off to summer camp, most will be meeting new people and building new relationships.
Love is the most influential, powerful state of being that any of us will ever encounter or experience in the course of our lives. It is beyond emotion, as it encompasses and affects all levels of our actions, thoughts, inspirations and aspirations. To be devoid of love is to be absent of life. The elements of love are intertwined and dependent upon one another; and, in most instances, are realized upon reciprocity. Any deficiency of these elements, or ‘links’, would therefore compromise the ‘chain’ that binds and holds each component together, and love will suffer.
Trust – This may be considered the most challenging element of love. You grant another person the right to hold your life, your emotions in their hands. You don’t question their intention as you firmly believe and confirm that they will not do you harm and, instead, will flourish with such privilege.
Honesty – There is no true love relationship that may occur without honesty. While certain truths may be painful to expose and share at times, the act and willingness to put truth above self-preservation is a constant testimony to that attests to the claim of love.
Tolerance – We are all predisposed to idiosyncrasies and quirks inherent in our personalities; and, in general, these are very good things. Oftentimes, however, such things may go across the grain of those closest to you. Tolerance permits these differences in actions or thoughts and accepts the them in the other’s composition as part of who they are, and not an affront to who they are.
Forgiveness -It is impossible to embrace another so closely without, at some time, hurting or disappointing them in some way. Forgiveness is the power and strength the ‘victim’ renders that indicates that the relationship is more important than the injury they feel has been done to them.
Kindness -As simple as this may appear, it is the food that helps a relationship to grow. Kindness acknowledges a unique awareness of the other person. It demonstrates gratitude and sensitivity in the relationship.
Security -While often difficult to foster and maintain in a relationship, security is closely related to trust. When you are secure in the relationship, envy and jealousy are less likely to raise their ugly heads. Security dismisses the notion that a partner may hold something or someone else in higher regard or interest.
Understanding/Compassion -It’s important to achieve an understanding of the motivations and values of your partner. True understanding and compassion recognizes that both the strengths, and weaknesses of another, equally comprise the total makeup of who they are.
Commitment -While some may see this is as a form of personal sacrifice, it is really quite the opposite. To be dedicated to the wants, needs and aspirations of your partner is truly noble and selfless. With commitment, your focus is on striving, to the best of your ability, to encourage anything that will bring prosperity and happiness to the other; and to do so without self-interest.
Respect -It’s important to avoid anything that would hinder the growth of the partner and, subsequently, the success of the relationship. This is achieved by showing respect for the partner and the relationship, at all times.
Desire–This would be considered the delicate thread that weaves through all those elements listed above. Without the passionate desire to meld with another, the concept of love would certainly be an exercise in futility.
As the title states, these are the ten words that describe love to me. You may have a different list, but it was a good exercise for me. Sometimes it helps just to think through what we really mean, when we use a word like ‘love’.
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