After speaking with Dr. Drew last week in an insightful call on teens and cough syrup abuse, the conversation turned to the many parents that are in denial or constantly looking to blame others for their child’s behavior.
How many times have you blamed your child’s friend or a neighbor for negative behavior of your child? It is not your child, it is the friends he/she is hanging with. Your child would never do drugs, they are too smart for that. Are they? Yes, many are highly intelligent but that doesn’t mean they are immune to drug use.
The faster you remove yourself from the “it’s not my child” excuse, the sooner you can work on getting your child the help he/she may need.
According to the Partnership for a Drug-Free America, one in five teens reports having abused a prescription drug to get high.
Teens who learn a lot about the dangers of drugs from their parents are half as likely to abuse drugs. – StopMedicineAbuse
Some red flags parents should be aware of, and not ignore are:
- Change in friends/peer group
- Withdrawn, secretive
- Change in appearance, grooming
- Decline in grades, skipping school
- Dazed eyes, glassy eyes, bloodshot
- Odor or smell to their hair or clothes of alcohol, pot, or nicotine (using body sprays and perfumes more frequently)
- Lying about their whereabouts, defiance
- Loss of interest in their usual interests such as sports, dance etc.
Parents need to understand that ignoring these signs or blaming it on others is not going to help your child. You need to seek treatment so it doesn’t escalate to much worse. A parent in denial is not helping the child, it is actually harming them. There isn’t any shame in having a child that is struggling, there is only shame if you don’t reach out and get help.